Keeping Kids Calm for Doctors’ Visits
by Sarah Lyons
Most children have nine well visits in their first two years of life and at least one checkup every year after. For kids who tend to worry and even fear going to the doctor, this can be overwhelming. There are a few things parents can do to calm the fears of kids who have an upcoming checkup.
Talk About Expectations
Prior to the appointment, talk to your children about what to expect. Be open and honest about what will happen at the appointment and why.
“We talk about everything that may happen, good and scary,” says Sara Sinani, mom of three boys. “I feel it helps them prepare emotionally and keeps the image of the doctor as a ‘helper’ rather than someone to be feared.”
After sharing what to expect at the appointment, ask your children if thy have any questions or concerns. Be honest, so they know what to expect, even if it is something unpleasant, like getting shots.
“We encourage our kids to ask us, the nurses, or doctors in order to get the info they need to feel comfortable,” says Sinani.
The more information your children have, the more comfortable they will feel when the day of the checkup arrives.
Role Play
Playing doctor is not only fun for kids, but it’s also a great way to get them more comfortable with the idea of visiting the doctor. Tara Saeyers, nurse and mom of two, says, “I always buy kids ‘doctor kits’ for their first birthdays.” She also suggests letting them touch the equipment themselves prior to someone else using it on them.
Another idea is to check out library books about visiting the doctor and/or watch children’s videos like “Daniel Tiger” or “Doc McStuffins” that help kids learn what to expect from a doctor visit. Roleplay helps kids act out their fears and concerns as well as become more comfortable with new situations.
Come Prepared
When the day of the checkup arrives, try to be as prepared as possible. Pack items that will entertain your children if they have to wait (books, small toys, coloring books, and crayons, or a tablet if Wi-Fi is available at the doctor’s office). Include any comfort items that may help your children if they are nervous or upset and a cup of water. Check with the office to see if snacks are allowed before bringing one. Some offices do not allow snacks due to the risk of allergies in other patients.
You might also consider bringing pain medication, like Tylenol, to give after shots are administered. It’s best to wait until after the visits because an accurate temperature must be recorded prior to vaccines, and painkillers mask a fever if your child has one.
It’s also important for parents to prepare themselves to be calm and supportive through the checkup. Children can sense adults’ fears and nervousness. When Mom and Dad are calm and comfortable, children will most likely feel the same way.
Plan a Reward
Prior to the visit, set up a reward, big or small, for your children and let them know what to expect. Having something to look forward to after the checkup can make even the most reluctant children more willing to cooperate during their time with the doctor.
Choose something that will motivate them. Some ideas could be treats like ice cream, shaved ice, or going out for lunch. Maybe a trip to the park, pool, or an opportunity to invite a friend over to play excites them more.
Some parents may also decide to purchase a small toy or book their children have had their eye on. Whatever you decide to choose as a reward, explain to your children what it will be, and how they will earn it.
After the doctor’s visit, tell them you are proud of them for their bravery and talk about how they felt during the appointment. When children know they can talk honestly about their feelings, they are usually more likely to discuss other fears in the future.
